Dearest Jules

I can hardly believe it but here I am ONE YEAR SOBER! It seems like a minute ago, a lifetime ago, a whole world ago, just yesterday that I committed to quitting the drink for good. And I'm so glad I did and that I found you and had you by my side to help me navigate my way out of a habit that was slowly destroying me. 

It's been a journey this year that's for sure, but having reached this landmark I find myself running a creative writing workshop that has been so successful there are plans for more, I've written a short story and entered it into three major writing competitions and I'm mentoring an aspiring writer too. But more than this, I just feel so much better in myself, it's hard to really quantify it or explain exactly, more at ease, less stressed, more accepting. I'm also discovering the unexpected joy of reconnecting with an old friend who has also gone sober. It's genuinely refreshing. And my daughter too - at first she doubted my commitment, and who could blame her, I'd tried so many times before - but I can see it's a weight lifted off her. 

I could go on, but really I just wanted to write to you on this day and thank you again for doing what you do and for providing this really wonderful service to me and others like me. I can honestly say I don't think I would be in the position I am now without you.

I hope you are well. I'll keep in touch.

Much love

Carolyn

I told Jules at the start of coaching I was a bit (a lot!) lost, I had been able to stop drinking but not maintain it and I was so disappointed with myself.

Through speaking with Jules, I realised I wasn’t making the changes to have the fantastic sober life Jules so enthusiastically talks about.

With her support and guidance, including the recommendation of Wayne Dyer and Brene Brown books I am at last on track.

I’ve got a difficult relationship to deal with, but I now journal those thoughts and feelings. I feel I’m able to cope with what life throws at me.

I’m learning to recognise my feelings and not just want to drown them in alcohol but actually face them and work out what’s going on in my head.

Thank you so much. I know I wouldn’t have reached my 10 weeks yesterday without this.  G.M.

I’m one of those people that people go to for help, not the other way around. I’m a holistic therapist and I have spent the past 20 years trying to help people.

I’m rubbish accepting advice if I don’t think the person giving it knows what they are talking about. They might have the piece of paper, but do they have the life experience to back it up?

Everything was going just fine in my life, or so I thought, until I was accused of being a “narcissistic alcoholic” by my daughter. 

I was told I only buy love and don’t give it – plus a whole lot worse.  My whole belief system and my self-belief was blown to smithereens.  I honestly believed that I was a good person, trying my best to make a difference and help people.

I was so shocked at what I was hearing, I decided that I never ever wanted anyone to have any ammunition against me to accuse me of being an alcoholic, which I knew I wasn’t, but I also knew the only way possible to do this was to give up alcohol completely.

When I met Jules I was blown away by how down-to-earth and straight-talking she is. I gave up drinking immediately.

I can honestly say, Jules definitely has the life experience and a fabulous down to earth manner.  It felt like I was talking things through with a really good mate.

By the end of our time together my relationships had improved – because I had set boundaries and stopped responding in the same way as I previously had, thanks to some great advice. What is it they say about if nothing changes, nothing changes?

I started practicing my guitar and finally committed to an NLP course that I had signed up to.

Jules didn’t help with just one thing – she helped me get my life to a way better place.

I can recommend Jules without reservation, whatever area of your life you need help with. A.T.

Dearest Jules,

Thank you so much for your time and expertise in our one to one sessions. Although we had problems with Zoom and WhatsApp in the beginning, the old fashioned way with the telephone worked well. I found it an added bonus not to have to watch myself, and could better concentrate on the conversation.

I felt an instant connection with you, you're so easy and open. Your delight in sobriety is infectious, it reminded me of the beauty of a made up mind.

Not only did I feel lighter for being able to express my feelings about my current situation in a totally safe and non-judgemental arena, but your suggestions to help me deal with the anger and grief I'm experiencing really hit the spot.

Family and friends can support and empathize, but it takes someone who's been there to offer solid practical help.

The work you do is nothing short of life-saving. Alcohol is an insidious poison, and I hope in years to come will be viewed much as cigarettes now are. To be one of the women heading this movement and empowering other women to get their lives and freedom back, is a really big deal, I hope you feel profoundly proud of yourself, you deserve to be. I feel proud to know you.😊

Thank you for believing in me, L. G.